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From the outside, you're the reliable one. Prepared, on time, delivering. The person others come to when things wobble. From the inside, it's a different story: the 3am replays, the triple-checked emails, the constant low-level dread that today is the day it all falls apart. That gap between how you look and how you feel is what people mean by high-functioning anxiety. It's not a formal diagnosis, but it's an extremely real experience, and in fifteen years in fashion buying f

You've decided, consciously and sincerely, to stop checking your phone in bed. And yet here you are, 11.40pm, phone in hand, watching yourself do the thing you decided not to do. That gap, between what you decide and what you do, is the unconscious mind in action, and understanding it changes how you think about every stuck pattern in your life. The 90% under the surface Think of your mind as having two systems. The conscious mind is the bit reading this sentence: logical, de

Someone tells you that you did a brilliant job, and before they've finished the sentence you're already batting it away. It was nothing. Anyone could have done it. The team did all the work. This top is ancient, it was three quid. If that's you, it isn't politeness and it isn't modesty. Deflecting compliments is one of the most reliable little windows into how someone actually feels about themselves. What's really going on when you receive a compliment Your unconscious holds

Stand in front of the mirror and tell yourself you're confident, abundant, and unstoppable. For some people that feels great. For a lot of people it feels like lying, and there's research suggesting that's exactly the problem: studies have found that repeating positive self-statements can actually make people with low self-esteem feel worse, because the gap between the statement and what they believe just gets highlighted. Your brain is not a mug that accepts whatever you pou

Visualisation has a branding problem. It gets lumped in with 'woo woo', so lots of people write it off as wishful thinking. Which is a shame, because underneath the fluff sits one of the most well-evidenced tools in performance psychology. Olympic athletes have used it for decades, and there's solid neuroscience explaining why it works. Your brain treats imagination as experience When you vividly imagine doing something, your brain activates many of the same neural pathways a

Replaying the conversation from three days ago. Drafting the text four times. Lying awake running simulations of a meeting that hasn't happened yet. Overthinking is exhausting, and the meanest part is that it disguises itself as being productive. It feels like problem-solving. It's actually a loop. What your brain thinks it's doing Overthinking is your threat-detection system working overtime. Your unconscious mind's number one job is keeping you safe, and its favourite tool

The honest answer is that for most people, yes, hypnotherapy is an effective way to reduce anxiety, and there's decent research behind it. A large meta-analysis of clinical trials found hypnosis significantly reduced anxiety symptoms, with the average participant improving more than around 79% of controls. Why anxiety responds well to this work Anxiety isn't a malfunction. It's your brain doing its job too enthusiastically. Your unconscious is constantly scanning for threats,

Most people's picture of hypnotherapy comes from TV: swinging watches, clicking fingers, someone waking up with no memory of the last hour. The reality is so much more ordinary, and so much more useful. Here's exactly what to expect, because feeling nervous about the unknown shouldn't be the thing that stops you getting help. Before anything else, we talk A first session starts with a proper conversation. What's going on, when it started, how it shows up in your life, and wha

If you know something needs to change but you're not sure who to call, you're not alone. The wellbeing world is full of overlapping titles, and choosing wrong costs you time, money, and momentum. So here's the simplified version, including where my own work sits. Counselling: understanding what happened Counselling and psychotherapy are primarily about processing. You talk, a trained professional helps you explore, and over time you develop insight into your feelings and your

Cognitive hypnotherapy is a modern, evidence-informed approach that combines hypnotherapy with techniques from CBT, NLP, and neuroscience. Rather than using one-size-fits-all scripts, everything is tailored to you: your experiences, your patterns, and the specific way your problem works. The thinking behind it Around 90% of what we do each day is driven by the unconscious. It's the part of you that runs your habits, your emotional reactions, and your snap judgements about wha

Imposter syndrome is the persistent feeling that you're not as capable as people think you are, and that sooner or later you'll be found out. It's not a mental illness and it's not a personality flaw. It's a pattern of thinking, and like all patterns, it can be changed. I see it every week in my practice. The person delivering brilliant work who's convinced they got lucky. The one who got the promotion and immediately started waiting for someone to realise it was a mistake. I